As my son has gotten older, I’ve noticed that some of our biggest challenges have shifted.

When he was younger, most of our concerns revolved around impulsivity, attention, and managing big emotions. Don’t get me wrong, those things are still challenges even now-though not as bad as before.

These days, we’re spending more time talking about friendships, confidence, worries, and how to handle situations that don’t go as planned.

Books have always been our favorite way to start these conversations. Some of these books we’ve read over and over again even when he was younger. To this day, they offer insight and help start meaningful conversations with my son.

A story feels less threatening than a lecture. Sometimes it’s easier for a child to talk about a character’s struggles before talking about their own.

These are seven books we’ve read together that opened the door to topics such as friendship, anxiety, self-acceptance, and resilience.

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1. Meesha Makes Friends by Tom Percival

Recommended Age: 4–8 years

My son related to Meesha’s struggle to connect with other children. In our case, it’s because he also has difficulty speaking Chinese. In the story, Meesha wants friends but isn’t quite sure how to make them. She ends up saying things others can’t understand.

This book helped us talk about how friendships don’t always happen instantly. Sometimes they take time, practice, and courage.

Why we liked it:

• Great for children who feel shy or different
• Encourages perseverance in social situations
• Beautiful illustrations and relatable characters

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2. How to Be a Friend by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown

Recommended Age: 5–9 years

This book takes a very practical approach to friendship.

Instead of focusing only on feelings, it teaches specific social skills such as listening, sharing, taking turns, joining games, and handling disagreements.

For children who sometimes struggle to understand social rules, the concrete examples are especially helpful.

Why we liked it:

• Simple and easy to understand
• Gives clear examples of friendship skills
• Great conversation starter about real-life situations

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3. Ruby’s Worry by Tom Percival

Recommended Age: 4–8 years

This was one of the first books that helped my son understand anxiety.

Ruby discovers a worry that starts small but grows larger and larger as she tries to ignore it. Eventually she learns that talking about worries helps make them feel smaller.

The message is simple but powerful. And I believe this story also encouraged my son to speak out whenever he feels worried!

Why we liked it:

• Helps children recognize anxiety
• Encourages open conversations
• Shows that everyone has worries sometimes

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4. Perfectly Norman by Tom Percival

Recommended Age: 4–8 years

Norman has a secret. He has wings.

At first he hides them because he worries about what others will think. Eventually he learns that being different isn’t something to hide and is actually something to celebrate!

Many children who feel different from their peers can see themselves in Norman’s story-including my son.

Why we liked it:

• Encourages self-acceptance
• Builds confidence
• Opens conversations about feeling different

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5. I Am Human by Susan Verde

Recommended Age: 5–10 years

This book reminds children that everyone makes mistakes, has difficult feelings, and faces challenges.

One of my favorite messages is that being human doesn’t mean being perfect.

For kids (and adults!) who can be very hard on themselves, that reminder is important.

Why we liked it:

• Promotes self-compassion
• Encourages empathy
• Helps children develop a growth mindset

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6. The Invisible String by Patrice Karst

Recommended Age: 4–10 years

This book introduces the idea that we stay connected to the people we love, even when we are apart.

Children who struggle with separation anxiety or worries about being away from family often find comfort in this story. It’s so useful for us, especially since we live away from our family.

Why we liked it:

• Reassuring and comforting
• Helps with separation anxiety
• Encourages emotional security

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7. The Koala Who Could by Rachel Bright

Recommended Age: 4–8 years

Kevin the Koala likes things exactly the way they are.

Trying something new feels scary.

As parents, we’ve had many conversations about trying new activities, meeting new people, and stepping outside our comfort zones. This book captures those feelings perfectly.

Why we liked it:

• Encourages flexibility
• Helps children face new experiences
• Builds confidence through small steps

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Quick Summary

Book	Main Topic	Age
Meesha Makes Friends	Friendship Skills	4–8
How to Be a Friend	Social Skills	5–9
Ruby’s Worry	Anxiety	4–8
Perfectly Norman	Self-Acceptance	4–8
I Am Human	Self-Compassion	5–10
The Invisible String	Separation Anxiety	4–10
The Koala Who Could	Fear of Change	4–8

No book can solve friendship struggles, anxiety, or confidence challenges overnight.

But stories can help children understand themselves a little better.

These books gave us opportunities to talk about feelings, worries, friendships, mistakes, and courage in a way that felt natural rather than forced.

If your child struggles with friendship, anxiety, or confidence, one of these books might open a conversation that surprises you.

And sometimes, those conversations are where the real growth begins.

Hope these help your family as much as they did ours!